'Do you hear the whistle more than you'd like...as in chasing the emotional train wreck? Oh, they're out to derail you if you're not careful...'
It has happened to all of us.
You’re out and about…enjoying your night with friends.
You meet someone. They’re great looking. Witty and funny. (Seemingly) self-assured.
But then it starts to come out.
The more you talk to them, the more the ‘real’ them emerges.
And you start to hear the whistle...
Chasing the Emotional Train Wreck Will Give You Just ONE Result
I remember one such example. Met a great gal. All the great attributes above…and I thought “wow…she’s different!”
Oh…she was different alright.
“Looooove tequila.” she proclaimed proudly. Then it was “I’m wildly insane!” The more I talked to her the more the craziness reared its ugly (beautiful?) head.
I will spare you any more details other than to say there were kids, ex-boyfriends (and girlfriends) and all manner of crazy behavior (“no no…none of the those 87 parking tickets were my fault at all...”).
Now…this was before social media, mind you (now…none of us have an excuse), but that doesn’t seem to matter.
I think you get where I’m going here.
(Ladies…rest assured, I realize that there are just as many cracky men too so this absolutely does not discriminate the gender.)
This Same ‘Trainwreck of Emotion’ Happens in Business Too
You can be dealing with a customer and they run you around…waste your time, blow off your appointment.
Or you have the ever-popular 'I'm going to try to make your life miserable because I'm miserable' customer from the nether-regions.
And it’s not just relegated to sales prospects.
There are plenty of aspiring online marketers that are complete flakes. Or they’re just plain jerks.
I've had a few doozies that were affiliates for some of my promotions that turned some of my hair 'blonde'. I've since learned how to deal with them...I don't (now).
See…really successful people don’t spend their days dealing with train wrecks…with flakes…with people who are unhinged.
The world is full of them: People who will waste your time, run you around and treat you with zero respect.
Learning to spot them is an acquired skill…but a necessary one.
So you need to ask yourself, are you watching emotional train wrecks…or chasing them.